Flenniken Public Library

Teen Zone

Etiquette

Have you ever wondered why everyone is looking at you in the movie theater when you are talking on your cell phone? Or why no one wants to go out with you-just because you asked their friend first? Maybe you have always wanted to know which fork to use. If so, this is for you!

Basic Manners

The most important rule to remember is if something would make you uncomfortable to see, don't do it. That said, these are some other rules that will help you on your way. Always say please if you want something and thank you if someone gives you something. If someone gives you a gift that you do not like, tell them thank you anyway. Do not tell them that you do not like the gift. If you are going to give the gift away, make sure you don't accidentally give it back to the same person (or someone who they know)! Compliment other people sincerely. Don't compliment someone as a way of making fun of them. Don't talk when someone else is talking (unless there is an emergency).

Dating Etiquette

Who Pays

If someone asks someone else out, the person who asked will usually pay. If you go out in a group, then everyone will usually pay for themselves. You must pay close attention to the way someone asks. If it is your turn to pay, don't forget to tip the wait staff. You don't want them to embarrass you for your poor tipping. Finally, if you are not sure who will pay, ask.

Getting out of an unwanted date

If someone wants to go out with you, and you don't want to-it is not bad manners to tell them no. But, you don't want to embarrass them. For example don't say-I wouldn't date you if you were the last person on Earth! You can say-I'm sorry I have something else I have to do (just don't mention that the something else is watching tv).

Table Manners

When you are in polite company don't chew with your mouth open. You don't want to accidentally spit food onto someone else. Fold your napkin in your lap, and keep your elbows off the table. In a situation with multiple silverware, use the outermost silverware first. Try to watch what other people do too, you can learn what many of those things are. Last but not least, if a small bowl appears filled with water, be careful. It might be a finger bowl to wash your fingers!

If you are interested in more manners rules check out this website. It even has manners horror stories.

You can also check out these books from the library.

Manners that matter for people under 21 by Dale Carlson and Dan Fitzgibbon-395.1 Car

Talk to the hand by Lynne Truss-395 Tru